Nobody died and made me leader of a cause, but the way I see it, traditionalists should keep the following things in mind moving forward:
1.) Removing "radtrad" and "radical traditionalist" isn't just about us faithful traditionalists. It's taking the Gospel command seriously to reach out to everyone, no matter how rejected, or how unworthy of it they are. If our actions hinder this without a reason, we should change our actions.
2.) When you launch a campaign of stigmatization against the "radical" the "non-radical" suffers as well. Our friends say they are doing this to distinguish the good from the bad. Can they cite any parallel example where this actually works? When you call someone a "Radical conservative" or "radical liberal" in politics, does this help the non-radicals stand out? Or do people who agree with you end up seeing all of the "other" as more or less tainted by that radicalism, and polarization continues?
3.) We aren't asking for a handout. We are simply asking for the chance of being treated as equals.
4.) Spend some time among us. Spend two weeks at a Latin Mass Chapel asking those faithful if "radtrad" helps. You'll find a mixed response, but I'm almost certain that the reaction will be the term does a lot more harm than good, and that your "charity" is damaging them.
Now what is expected of us faithful trads?
1.) Continue to condemn errors. When someone says things that are wrong, point out they are wrong. Our friends across the way fear that if they give up their right to label, error won't be condemned. Prove them wrong, and take away yet another justification for them creating division.
2.) Take your vocations seriously. If you are already doing it, do it better. Don't give into despair, and be happy warriors.
3.) The Greatest weapon against our friends creating division is that they set unrealistic expectations. Even most "radtrads" you meet in the flesh aren't the boogeymen internet bloggers proclaim them to be. They tend to be relatively normal people who just have some messed up ideas that need correcting, and sacraments to grow in holiness once they are in full communion with the Church. For us faithful trads, the effect is even more pronounced. Once people realize we are just like them, with similar parish problems and events, their attitude changes. They might not end up liking the Latin Mass, but they'll come away with our respect. When you respect someone, they can't be a "radtrad" or "Neo-Catholic."
4.) As time goes on, fewer and fewer people will be using these terms. If they are looking for a way to drop them, listen to them, offer suggestions, etc. Don't debate them. There really isn't much to debate. One shouldn't accept a limited moniker that is still insulting. Listen and offer suggestions, and continue living by example. Continue to challenge our friends to name something they lose by giving up the term for three months.
When all else fails, appeal to good old fashioned pragmatism.
1.) The younger generations aren't gripped by this whole "radtrad/Neo-Catholic" debate like previous generations were. As one of the people who brought the term into usage would frequently tell me, all this debate is foreign to your generation, and that's a good thing. Traditionalism is becoming increasingly a youth movement, and this youth movement is very aggressive in the Church today, not just in adding members, but in putting ourselves out there and working with our brethren who aren't traditionalists, but still agree with us on all doctrine and 95% of everything else. Our kids play with their kids. As time goes on, it is going to be tough to continue the stigma.
2.) We are more motivated. In the end, despite their protests, they really aren't invested in the words "radtrad" and "radical traditionalsit." If they stopped using them, they won't notice a difference. We certainly will. So they will offer their nonchalant defenses, and we will offer our motivated defense. Who wins in the end given such circumstances?
3.) If nothing changes, simple generational inertia kicks in. For once, traditionalists can proclaim that if we do nothing, we (inevitably) get what we want.
Yet why wait? Let's give the status quo an occasional push.